I didn’t finish last week’s lesson on Abiding Fruit. I didn’t do the latter days, although God has been majorly working in my life and what He keeps saying over and over and over and over is ABIDE!!! I was able, completely last minute and for free, to head up to the women’s retreat with my old church down in Redlands for a weekend full of friendship and focus on God.
Even when I was there, I was struggling.
I have been having a very hard time trusting God.
I sometimes have been feeling like He is not real, and is just something I have held on to because of years of practice.
Despite my frustrations, I saw that God was opening doors for me to attend the retreat and was excited to see what He would show me. I was overwhelmed as the women were singing praises to God; overwhelmed with their focus and adoration; overwhelmed with their sense of peace. I sang the songs to Him, but instead of feeling like it was overflowing out of the abundance of my heart, I felt like I was really wanting to believe it was all true.
God definitely spoke to me this weekend, although maybe not in some sort of glorious ray of light shining that I somehow wanted. I was able to spend about 5 hours with my good friend (and amazing “older woman in Christ”) Lisa . I shared my frustrations and anxieties over the past few months and she listened and cried as I cried. She encouraged me that my thoughts were normal, and maybe even rational, but that didn’t exclude that God was alive and working. She shared insight into her life that encouraged me of what I already knew, that God uses everything, even series of frustrations, disappointments, stresses and heartaches to draw us closer to Him, to reveal more of who He is, even if it seems at various times in our life as if He is not near.
The topic of the weekend was “the Four Loves” and it was based on the book of the same name by C.S. Lewis that I read a good 10 years ago. It was encouraging and eye opening as to how much I try to live the Christian life on my own. I try to be the best mom on my own strength. I try to show love to other people and what comes out is the dark side of my own personal struggles and emotions. It should be no surprise to me that I fail so often, and it was no surprise to me that all this running on my own strength has left me tired, and even a little angry.
The speaker (who was fantastic!) shared so much insight, but what sticks in my head was this small little visual illustration. She took an electric can opener and showed us how handy the invention was. She said you simple push the thing into the can, then lift it up, rotate the can an 1/8 of an inch, and push it down again. Lift the lid up, rotate the can, push down. Lift the lid up, rotate, push down. Lift, rotate, push. Lift, rotate, push. After a while of this, a few of the ladies in the audience were saying, “no, no… plug it in!!” She played the fool and said, “No, this works. It takes about 10 minutes to open this can, but it is opened. It takes quite a bit of time and energy, but I can do it on my own.” This is what we do when we try to live the Christian life on our own strength. We exhaust ourselves, our time, our resources and get frustrated in the process. God wants us to plug in to Him!! To ABIDE!!! He is the source of love, peace, joy, goodness, etc… On our own, we have no strength to do very much for Him, and we are left bitter and frustrated by the process.
I need to take the time to plug in to His power and abide in Him.